Confessions of a Perfectionist


I’ll admit it. . . Hi!  My name is Kamil, and I am a perfectionist.  I believe this trait lived dormant in me for years, and became more prominent as I aged.  It’s possible subconsciously I chose careers that satisfied the closeted perfectionist.  For example, I was a software developer for over 10 years.  It’s a career where being a perfectionist comes with the territory.  You can’t necessarily write code or debug a program properly with a  lackadaisical attitude about your data results.   Then there’s my career as an event planner.  An event planner’s, job is to take care of all the details and ensure all the I’s are dotted and the t’s are crossed.  Event planners are also visionaries where we predict or anticipate what’s going to happen so we can plan and handle those situations appropriately.  Now, there are times when being a perfectionist will burn a lot of time and energy.  That is not to say that if something is imperfect it is wrong or lacks quality.  However, for anyone that’s ever planned a party, event, gathering, etc., there are times when you need to control the inner perfectionist.  But first you need to identify the circumstances when to unleash or quiet your perfectionist’s nature.

Is it wrong or is a preference?

If something is wrong it needs to be rectified immediately!  For example, if 15 rectangle tables are ordered, but 20 round tables show up, that’s a problem.  Here it is okay for the perfectionist to come out.  Get on the phone call your contact to resolve the issue promptly!

However, if it’s a preference, you may not want to spend the time or energy to resolve this sort of issue.  For example, if you find the napkins aren’t the same shade of blue as the tablecloths, flowers, goodie bags, etc., you may want to let this one go.   First consider the impact.  Are you going to be the only one who will notice?  From a color scheme perspective, various shades of a color add depth and interest to your décor.

Go with the flow.

As an event planner, I’m very big on timelines.  I need to know exactly what’s going on, at what time it’s happening, and who’s involved.  I also need to ensure the event is moving along smoothly.  For example, if the caterer doesn’t arrive at the scheduled time, you need to be the perfectionist to find out what’s going on, and stress the urgency of the situation.

Consider this scenario. . . Let’s say your event is going smoothly.  Guests are having a good time, and there’s great energy in the room.  Your schedule says it’s time to move on the next activity.  It might not be a good idea to be a killjoy and tell the guests it’s time to move on!  Most recently I planned an event that included a game segment.  The game segment was scheduled to happen between 4:00 p.m. and 5:15 p.m., and then we were scheduled to eat at 5:30 p.m.  The food was setup and ready to go as scheduled.  But at 5:45 p.m. the guests were still playing the game.  I couldn’t necessarily be the strict time keeper and tell the guests it’s time to stop having fun, and move on the next activity.  There are times when the agenda’s timeline should flow organically with the energy and momentum in the room.  When scenarios like this happen, realize extending an activity may put you behind schedule, and you’ll have to make up for that time somewhere else. 

Haters are going to hate.

The main reason I tend to fall in a perfectionist category, is due to the fact I don’t like criticism, nor to appear inadequate.  I don’t want people to have a reason to point out what went wrong, or comment on what they would do differently.  For a long time I worked under the assumption that if things were done perfectly I’m quieting the naysayers.  But the truth is, naysayers are always going to have something to say, because that’s what they do.  People like this cannot be satisfied.  You can’t let that bother you.  These are the times we need to stand firm in what we have done, and know we’ve done an excellent job that addresses the client’s needs and budget.

Remember why we’re here.

When people come together for parties, events, weddings, etc., they’re coming to celebrate!  They are coming to fellowship. They’re coming to spend time with their loved ones.  They are not necessarily there to pick apart your event, and expect a flawless production.  Remember people are coming to create and share memories.  So, it’s okay if things aren’t perfect.  It’s also a testament to the fact we’re human, and life is going to happen.  It’s these elements that connect us to one another, and makes moments special.

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